I read the books. Was I the only innocent who believed that I might have an orgasmic childbirth and that sex after childbirth was only a matter of creative scheduling? After she had a baby at 39, Kathleen Hamilton's sexual desire dove overnight from, "Honey, can we please have sex tonight, I've got a headache?" to nothing. Zero. Zip. Nada. It was an identity crisis. Plus, it was no fun at all. None of the books and articles Kathleen could find came close to explaining why she lost her libido, or how or when she might find it again. No one around Kathleen talked openly about her experience balancing sex and motherhood - until Kathleen asked.