Impossible expectations -- Blue jeans and "blue" genes : depression and the triple bind -- Life in the pressure cooker : impossible expectations and the culture of busy-ness -- No place to run, no place to hide : the popular culture of "self-erasing identities"--When virtue is its own punishment : how empathy and verbal skills may put our girls at higher risk -- Bratz dolls and pussycat dolls : teaching our girls to become sexual objects -- The wired child : how cyberculture interferes with girls' identities -- See Jane hit : the new culture of violence among teenage girls -- Is there a triple bind solution? -- Conclusion: coming to terms with the triple bind.