This first of its kind comprehensive guidebook explores the unique challenges facing thousands of families raising gender variant children. Through extensive research, interviews, and years of experience, the authors cover gender variance from birth through college. What do you do when your daughter's first sentence is "I'm a boy?" What if your preschool son insists on wearing a dress to school? Is this ever just a phase? How do you explain it to your neighbors and family? How can you advocate for your child in elementary schools? What are the current laws on the rights of transgender children? What do doctors specializing in gender variant children recommend? What do the therapists say? What advice do other families who have trans kids have? What about hormone blockers? Surgery? What issues should your college-bound trans child be thinking about when selecting a school? How do you best raise your gender variant or transgender child with love and compassion, even when you barely understand the issues ahead? And what is gender, anyway? These questions and more are answered in this book offering a deeper understanding of gender variant and transgender children and teens.