Come Together isn't about how much we want sex, or how often we're having it; it's about whether we like the sex we're having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex-from stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex "should" be-and presents the best ways to overcome them. You'll learn: That "spontaneous desire" is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades. Vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in "the mood" and how to not take it personally when "the mood" is nowhere to be found. How to understand your own and your partners' "emotional floorplan," so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind. With her signature insight, humor, and empathy, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.